The first speed dating date

Well I mentioned I'd been speed dating and that it was a fun night - well last Tuesday I went on my first date from the pool of four interested candidates.

It was with a guy called Keith who works in marketing, but he lives in Leeds (a neck of the UK I am more than familiar with) but works in London - one hell of a commute.

Anyway he was 33 and looked fairly handsome.  We met in Balans for dinner to which he was 10 minutes late.  I wasn't complaining as I've started back at the gym since my op and in just a week my pecs are pumped.  I decided to wear a deep v-neck to show my assets off.  This didn't go un-appreciated as a guy two tables away was just staring at me all night and even followed me down to the toilet, but he didn't have the balls to chat to me.  His loss!

Anyway conversation was easy with Keith, I asked if he'd had any work done as his forehead didn't move and his lips were extremely full for a white man.  He assured me that despite his uncle being a plastic surgeon, he remained untouched - I didn't buy that either. I confessed all my work in progress and he was please by my honesty.

Talking of honesty I found out that despite being 33 and deciding he was gay at the age of 24 he's still not come out to his 40 year brother or 80 year old mum - a bit worrying if you are trying to come across as an honest guy?

After a nice dinner that lasted a good two hours due to chat we went to the Yard for a drink.  It was obvious from the body language he was into me so we kissed and it wasn't disappointing.

As I was trying to come across innocent I wasn't putting out on the first date, but Keith did ask me how I felt tonight had went.  I told him I wasn't looking for an instant boyfriend but wanted to get to know someone and I felt we got on well and would like to get to know him better.  I also stated a second date was a must, he agreed on all points.  Another horse to my stable.

He walked me to the tube and we parted ways with a promise to hook up in a weeks time.  Being me when I got off the tube I sent him a text thanking him for a good night and reaffirmed my interest and hope for a second date.

I was shocked and insulted the next day when I'd not had a reply.  It just shows you some men are full of shit.  Still my next speed dating date is lined up for Friday so I can't complain.

Tick tock..times up

Last week I tried speed dating, the awkward part was I did it with my ex. It was all part of me trying to get him to be more social. I guess I’ve felt a little guilty that I’ve taken to being single like a duck to water and my ex has been a bit slow on the up take, so speed dating seemed like the perfect opportunity to meet a lot of single guys.


The event was run by Village Drinks, who are a social networking site for gay professionals and there were 50 single guy’s at this event. As my ex and I were early we managed to secure places sitting down rather than one of the people who move from table to table.


Neither of us had been speed dating before so didn’t really know what to expect. Firstly three minutes was hardly enough time to chat to anyone and decide whether you want to see them again, there was far too much paper work to do within that time and all in all I felt like I was Alan Sugar interviewing for possible dates.


There was a good array of vocations ranging from HR, self employed, bankers and fund raisers and I found that as the night went on, the more wine I drank the more open I was to ticking the yes box for further dates. I also neglected to tell my potential dates I was here with my ex, which in one case had funny repercussion for one suitor.


Basically the way it was set up meant that after I had seen a guy they went to the next table which my ex sat at. One guy complained to my ex that I had talked about myself for the whole 3 minutes. My ex told him we were friends and the guy was highly embarrassed, then we both marked him down as a no.


It was an enjoyable night and we both had a good laugh, the following day we got our results back and only one person wanted to date my ex, while I had four interested guys. I’ve already arranged dates with two of them for this week so watch this space for an update.